We Call Holland Home

I guess for those of you who are friends and family and are not familiar with the poem Welcome To Holland. I need to explain the title first. When I found out Bryan had Down syndrome I was given a poem called Welcome To Holland. This is the poem.

Welcome To Holland
byEmily Perl Kingsley
c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved.

Matthew and ... I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.

This poem was instrumental in bringing me to accept what I was told. My my baby boy will have Down syndrome. What this ment to us as a family I did not know, I just knew all of us Kevin, myself, Danny and Kevin Tyler were about to embark on a special trip to Holland apparently.

Well Bryan is almost 2 now and it was two years on October 7th I knew my son would have Down syndrome at birth. And I can honestly say that I love being in Holland!

So now in our house We Call Holland Home! Welcome to the Roach Family Blog, We Call Holland Home Blog Spot!!! I will be updating the blog weekly so please check for exciting family news on all three boys and us.